I’m an argumentative person. I find that discussion helps me learn; I like to know why people think as they do and that usually means coming out and asking. However the the discussion goes, I know more by the end. I can’t really lose. At least, I couldn’t lose when I was hidden. It’s different now.
While I refuse to give credence to the TERF view that I was raised with male privilege — it’s more faceted than that — I have to accept that before I was aware of my gender identity I wasn’t threatened by discussion on certain topics. I wasn’t explicitly aware that a few billion people in this world want me dead. I was quick to make it a thought puzzle that a few billion people wanted a few million people dead and it wasn’t upsetting to me.